So you guys are among the first to know… I am no longer coaching. I am officially making it official. Let me explain…
One thing that we have to understand is that as we walk and go through life, as we are pursuing that thing that God has given us to do, there are levels of clarity that we get. It’s like constantly pulling back layers of an onion. Getting down to the core. Evolving. We’re getting down to the core of what it is that God has given us to do and what He has called us to be. Women Ignited was that catalyst for me.
In October 2015 I hosted my first live event “Women Ignited”. I had so many opportunities to pour into people, the opportunity to publicly pray for one of my clients, and just to speak about life in general with them. It was a very real experience for me. Once I got home from Atlanta and actually had a chance to settle (I was forced to stop because I was taking care of my sick son), I began mulling it over, thinking it through. Here are a few things I realized…
With coaching, the coach is the content expert. For example, my area of expertise is product creation, revenue stream creation, and dominating in those areas. I’m gifted in it and that’s how my brain works so that was the skills and content that I found myself primarily focusing on and coaching women to. In order for your business life to work, your personal life has to work. There’s no separating the two. What I was finding was that during coaching sessions, my clients would wind up sharing aspects of their personal lives with me. So, for example, I could be with a coaching client and we’re supposed to be building revenue streams out, but during the course of the conversation she’s intimating to me how it really scares her to share her products with others for fear they won’t buy. Another would share how her separation and impending divorce were affecting her ability to focus and get the work of her brand done. Still another would let me know that she is an inherent procrastinator because she doesn’t really believe she deserves to succeed.
Consequently, I go away from the content conversation (coaching) and go into encouragement and often times, ministry. I let her go off and talk about personal relationship stuff, work stuff, all kinds of stuff because at the core of me I want to help her succeed in ALL aspects of her life. At that moment though, I left my position of being the content master. For all intents and purposes, I was no longer “Coach E” in that moment. I began to allow the business instruction to intermingle with the necessary personal conversations. What I finally realized was that your business life and your personal life flow in an intricate circle that makes up your life as a whole. And I felt like I was helping my clients the MOST when I was able to address both.
Business success is developed in the realm of your personal life. There is no escaping it, no separating it. They go hand in hand. If your personal life is jacked up, your business will be jacked up. If you make 6 or 7 figures or even just 3 or 4 figures, it doesn’t matter. It is not going to be to the degree that you could make it because your personal life has issues. Your relationships, your work-life connection, everything, is off. You can’t focus when you need to focus. And as an entrepreneurial strategist, as “Coach E,” I myself was not able to focus with my clients where they needed to focus – the personal areas of their lives that were affecting the success of their businesses.
However, I’ve found that there is a place for me. There’s a place where I can marry the two together. And that’s mentoring. Mentoring is transformational. It is about relationships, and it is all encompassing. It accomplishes the personal and the business. I no longer coach because I want to help people grow in life and in business. I don’t want to separate them. I want to have the business conversations wrapped around personal and real life. I no longer coach because I have chosen to create transformation. Not saying that a business coach can’t create transformation. But I can’t just focus on the content. My clients (and their businesses) can’t afford for me to just focus on the content. Therefore I’m shifting my focus in order to be able to serve people more effectively and be able to connect. I’m jumping headlong into mentoring!
Coaching is focused on a particular skill while mentorship is focused on transformation.
That’s the simplest way to put it. I wish I had known that before I started branding myself as a coach though! I don’t want to just give you information and leave you. I’m all about the transformation. So I have to be a mentor. I don’t have any desire, really, but to make sure that you are busy with your purpose. That you have somebody to hold your feet to the fire. You know that you have somebody to share your ideas with. That when you are having a moment or where you don’t feel the confidence in winning, I will be the one that will pick you up for you.
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